You’re not bad at conflict.
You were never taught the language.
Conflict coaching for individuals and families. We find what is actually driving the tension, and you leave every session with a blueprint.
Take a seatWhy Variance
Conflict is an opportunity
The word variance means difference. In conflict, differences are everything. Differences in perspective, experience, expectation, and communication sit at the heart of every conflict.
When those differences don’t translate, conflict escalates. When they are communicated clearly, resolution becomes possible.
Decoding the variance changes the outcome. Every time.
What happens when it’s left alone
Unmanaged conflict becomes one or more of these four things
Usually it’s just miscommunication, in a language most of us were never actually taught how to speak.
- iShutdown. The subject becomes untouchable and the floor becomes eggshells.
- iiThe same argument, for the 47th time, with the same ending.
- iiiEscalation into behavior with legal consequences.
- ivA mental health crisis that was preventable.
Do you really want the next generation to learn that from you?
Take a seat.You are in the right room
The Work
This is not therapy or mediation
No one is going to sit back and ask how that makes you feel. The fact is… you have a problem and need help. We take that info and workshop the facts. You leave with a game plan the same session.
One person changes the room
You bring the problem. We ID the variables underneath it: the assumptions, the history, the unspoken expectations, the cultural gaps. Then we map out your next move.
- Language for the conversation you have been avoiding
- A plan you can use this week, not a reading list
- Skills that transfer to every conflict after this one
Break the cycle, don’t just name it
Cycle breaking is having a moment, and we love that. But naming a pattern is not the same as ending one. We work with families to blueprint that change.
- A shared vocabulary everyone in the house can use
- Structure for the conversations that go sideways
- Progress you can point to, not just feel
How it goes
Four steps, in order
Nothing here is open ended. You always know which step you are on.
Book a consult
We meet, you tell me what is going on, and you decide whether this is right. You make the commitment.
Create the blueprint
We map what is happening now, what you want instead, and the route between the two.
Workshop it
One session or a standing appointment. We do the work, and every session ends with a plan.
Measurable results
Proactive habits start showing up. You’ve learned to stop the cycle in its tracks, go forth and lead.
Credentials and proof
Why trust this room
Two master’s degrees from Pepperdine Caruso School of Law: Legal Studies, and Dispute Resolution.
A decade of criminal data analytics and pattern mapping for law enforcement. I have seen what mishandled conflict costs.
Currently pursuing a PhD in Clinical Psychology, deepening the science behind the psychology of conflict.
Meet the founder
Glad you’re here
I’m Claire. If you’re reading this, chances are the way you’ve been communicating through conflict doesn’t work, you’re over it, and it’s time to ask for professional help. Or you’re being proactive, which I love! Either way, welcome.
Picture being stranded in a country where you desperately need help, except the only language spoken is the one you got two C minuses in during middle school before switching to Spanish at the first opportunity. You’re panicking, throwing out words, hoping something clicks with someone. That is most of us in conflict, in our native language, no less.
I built Variance Analytics to teach the language of healthy conflict, and to introduce you to the opportunity it really is. Real skills, real self awareness, and a way of showing up that matches who you want to be.
- MDR, Dispute Resolution, Pepperdine Caruso School of Law
- MLS, Legal Studies, Pepperdine Caruso School of Law
- BA, Law and Society, American University, Washington DC
- A decade of criminal data analytics and pattern mapping for law enforcement
The world needs champions of positive change.Might as well be you
Before you book
The questions everyone asks
What makes this different from therapy?
Therapy explores what you feel and why you feel it. This produces a plan. We workshop the actual situation together and you leave each session with defined next moves. Many clients of this coaching need to be asking those questions, which is why this work is an excellent partner to the mental health profession.
What is your pricing model?
Pricing is stated plainly before you commit, with no hidden fees. Your consult covers scope and cost so you can decide with the full picture.
How does the initial consultation work?
We draw out what is happening now, what you want to see instead, and whether this is the right fit. If it is, we build the blueprint from there. If it’s not the right fit, we’ll send you to who is.
Are sessions confidential?
Yes. What is said in session stays in session, within the standard legal limits, which we go over up front.
I don’t know where to start. What do I do?
Book the consult and say exactly that. Not knowing where to start is one of the most realistic places to start.
Your move
Don’t just talk about breaking cycles
Let’s break them. Book a consult.
One conversation. No obligation to continue.